From an evolutionary standpoint, if we are in control of our environment, then we have a far better chance of survival. Our deep subconscious mind thus gives us strong biochemical prods when we face some kind of danger.
This is a list of a few needs that lead to a sense of control:
I will highlight my needs in red.
A sense of certainty
Completion of outstanding things, so we don’t have to worry about them
Understanding of how things work
Being able to predict what will happen
That people (including ourselves) and things are consistant
Psychologist Abraham Maslow defined a hierarchy of needs, with particular revelation that when lower needs are. not met, then the higher-level needs will be abandoned in favor of shoring up the deeper needs.
The diagram above is the hierarchy. Notice how control is important within this, especially the lower you go.
The reason I write about CONTROL?
I have been told over and over by counselors, psychologist, and so many other people, I have control issues. I have used this excuse to get away with bitchy behavior and unreasonable actions.
So, I thought if I reviewed my knowledge and shared with whoever reads this, that I would be conscious acknowledging the problem.
Giving up control is not a 1 2 3 process as so many want to believe. I believe in handing issues I know I cannot change over to my God. My problem is when I am clueless I am controlling, or as others call it MANIPULATING.
Some advice given throughout the articles I read, that seems reasonable to understand and easy for ME to practice are:
Realize that the harder we try to control a behavior, a person, or a creative endeavor, the less likely we are to succeed.
The struggle to control is usually a futile exercise that can drive each of us and those around us a little crazy.
- Survival and Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, by J.S.I. (survivalblog.com)
- Maslow’s Hierarchy of Enterprise 2.0 ROI (cloudave.com)
- The Brief About Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Theory (socyberty.com)
- Applying Maslow’s Theory of Motivation to the Home Office (brighthub.com)